How to make a woman orgasm: fingering techniques, tips and tricks.

Our hands are an essential part of our sex lives, and they are, of course, an essential part of how to finger a woman successfully. Not only do we pleasure ourselves, which helps us explore our bodies and understand what gets us off, but we can bring intense pleasure to our partners using only our fingers!

There are many men who wonder how to make a woman orgasm because often, misled by what they see in porn, they struggle to please their girl without the assistance of a toy or her doing it herself.

That’s why we’ve prepared this step-by-step guide for how to finger a woman! This will be your go-to for fingering techniques and achieving that thing we all want: the female orgasm. Many women don't yet know how to pleasure themselves properly through masturbation, which is why we explained how female masturbation works in this article.

Female sexual organs are very different from male. This results in, generally, women having more difficulty achieving the big O, but it also results in women having the potential to experience more varied and more intense orgasms! If you learn to do it right, you can make a woman climax in two ways: the vaginal orgasm and the clitoral orgasm (sometimes at the same time…).

Anyone can give a woman both types of orgasm by learning to stimulate the right parts of her body in the right way, and by, importantly, following her signals.

First up, it’s time to really get to know the vagina. Only by knowing all her bits and pieces can you stimulate her exactly where she likes it - without her even having to ask!

How to finger a woman: fingering techniques she’ll thank you for.

Foreplay all the way.

If you want to know how to make a woman orgasm - never leave out foreplay! Before anything goes in anywhere, start by kissing and caressing all her erogenous zones: mouth, breasts, behind the ears. Doing this means she will lubricate herself naturally, and you can really connect with each other before penetration.

Clitoral stimulation.

Let's start with the clitoris: the small, fleshy outside part of female genitalia. The clitoris is like the penis, only more sensitive, smaller, and only the tip is visible from the outside of the body. Where is the clitoris located? It’s above the vulva and the vagina, right at the point where the labia meet and form a little hood, and it feels like a tiny pea. Stimulating the clit leads to the much-desired clit orgasm.

When it comes to how to finger a woman, at the beginning it’s best to start with slow and gentle movements because the first rule of fingering is to make sure that the area is wet and naturally lubricated first. It’s painful for a woman to be touched or penetrated if the vagina is dry, so don’t even try it!

If she is not immediately lubricated, it’s okay! Sometimes it doesn’t happen straight away, and, with her consent, that’s where lube comes in! It's also important that your hands are warm because, like the penis, a woman's clitoris can shrink if it’s cold.

After setting the scene, clitoral stimulation can begin. This fingering technique starts with lightly caressing the area around the clitoris and the vulva; using your fingers to stroke up and down. Since every woman has different preferences you should always check-in and ask her what she likes. All these fingering techniques are great to use during intercourse too!

Draw an 8: With one finger, imagine drawing an 8 around the clitoris.

Light tapping: Tap lightly and gently on and around the clitoris - not too hard, because this area is very sensitive!

Watch out for the hood: When it comes to how to finger a woman, you really need to get to know her anatomy. Many women have a kind of hood over their clitoris and it can sometimes stop her experiencing clitoral stimulation fully. If this is the case for your lover, you have to "lift" this part of the skin, and then stimulate the clitoris directly.

Treat it like a penis: as we said before, the clitoris can be considered the penis of a woman. Using your thumb and index finger, gently take the clitoris from the base, like you are picking it up, and move your fingers up and down.

Vaginal stimulation.

Once you’ve stimulated the clitoris and got her going, it’s time to visit the G spot! How to make a woman orgasm like she never has before? This is it. This area located inside the vagina, at the upper wall - imagine it as just behind her pubic hair. The G-spot only swells and can be stimulated if the woman is turned on, so it is always best to start with clitoral stimulation and then move on to the vagina.

Listen to your partner

Don't be afraid to do the wrong thing! Try your best, talk to your partner, listen to her and follow her signals. Communicating is always the best way! Only by learning about each other's specific preferences can you achieve the most pleasure possible.

Simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot.

Use both hands to continue exciting your lover. Keeping your movements smooth and slow, slide your fingers down from the clitoris and slowly enter the vagina with two fingers. To reach the G spot have your fingers in a hooked, “come hither” position.

Don’t stop!

Women, unlike men, don’t experience a refractory period - that period after orgasm when a man can’t get a new erection or be pleasurably stimulated. Women can have multiple and continuous vaginal and clit orgasms, so when you see her reaching ecstasy, keep going!

Sex toys and games for couples.

If you’re learning how to finger a woman, this is the perfect time to try out sexy games and to experiment with sex toys. You could use a finger vibe - a small vibrator that you put on your finger to help stimulate the woman's clitoris. Or a rabbit vibrator, which allows you to penetrate her and stimulate the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time, to achieve a double female orgasm!

Sexy couples games are also highly recommended. For example, try blindfolding your partner to increase the sensation of your touch and leave them feeling pleasurably helpless...

Now you know all about how to make a woman orgasm, head to the bedroom and show off everything you’ve learned...