Sexting - why we all love to do it.

Sexting lets people enjoy pleasure and intimacy long-distance. Here are 4 reasons sexting is so popular - and why you should try it!

May is the month of masturbation. And this year especially, masturbation seems to be a hot topic. Due to the current situation forcing millions of people to stay at home (and away from their lovers) sexting and masturbation are the way most people are getting themselves off.

Modern technology has been vital in helping people keep up sexual relationships and intimacy long distance. Phones and laptops have changed the way we communicate in general, but they have also given us the opportunity for new ways to flirt and enjoy sexual pleasure.

What does sexting mean?

Sexting or dirty talk means the exchange of sexual and flirtatious messages through devices like smartphones, PCs or tablets. The word sexting comes from the combination of "sex" and "texting” - and that’s exactly what it is! In an era where many couples find each other over apps or the internet, and where many of us talk to our friends through text more than in person, it’s unsurprising that sexy texting is a norm in modern relationships.

In the world of used underwear (one you may be familiar with), dirty talk is common and long sexting sessions are sought after. In the Panty.com community, there is an entire category dedicated to dirty chat - and it’s one of the most popular services offered by our sellers! This isn’t surprising, because dirty talk is where fantasies can become reality.

Sexting is now rightly seen as something that brings excitement and other benefits to individuals and their relationships. Once you start sexy phone texting, you quickly realise its endless possibilities! You can say anything (even things you’re too scared to say in person), and some sexting sessions can go on for days, or weeks.

Before launching into the world of sexting, it’s important to think about what precautions to take (especially when it comes to issues like privacy), as well as how to write a really good sext. Check our guide to safe and successful sexting, as well as sexting ideas.

Why sexting is good for you.

All the distancing measures put in place in recent months have separated us from many things we enjoy, including sex! Fortunately, technology is bringing us together. This lockdown has caused an increase in sexting, but also other forms of online sex, like video and Skype sex.

One reason sexting is good for us is that it increases desire and libido. Another one is that it boosts self-confidence, in a big way! Also, don’t forget that "Sometimes it's easier to write things down than say them out loud." Online dirty talk allows us to explore new parts of our sexual selves and develop the confidence to try new things.

It is easier to express an intimate, naughty desire over text than it is to say it out loud. And guess what? Once you’ve said it over text, you’re more likely to try it in real life.

What is sexting? A way of communicating that has endless possibilities! Dirty talk doesn’t stop with texts. Many sexy messaging sessions involve the exchange of images and videos.

Posing, taking a hot picture, sending that picture and accompanying it with words that express desire is a great way to create intimacy and excitement and to get to know each other better! Taking photos or videos in which you look and feel your best is also a great confidence booster in itself.

A study conducted by American researcher Morgan Johnstonbaugh, University of Arizona, revealed why sexting is so popular and what men and women think about it. Through an online questionnaire, the researcher asked more than 1,000 people why they love dirty texts.

Here are 4 reasons why men and women love sexting.

Exciting the other person. This is a big reason why loads of us sext - to turn our partner on! And in doing that, turn ourselves on! 73% of women and 63% of men answered that their main reason for sexting is to get their partner excited.
Pleasing the other person. The second reason people like to exchange dirty talk so much is to satisfy and please their lover. About 40% of both women and men send erotic messages to give moments of pleasure to their recipient. Because we all love feeling wanted!
Keeping their lover interested. Another reason to sext, shared by 40% of women, is to stop their lover losing interest or getting their sexual stimulation and excitement elsewhere.
To feel more confident. The study found that more women than men saw sexting as a way of increasing self-confidence. According to the researcher "Women might find sexting to be really empowering because you can create a space where you feel safe expressing your sexuality and exploring your body."

So, everyone likes sexting! Women and men, young and old, couples and singles - and for lots of reasons. With all the benefits we’ve listed above, now is definitely the time to let go and send that naughty message you’ve been thinking about.

How to start sexting? Just type out all those naughty things that have been on your mind lately.