Oral sex tips: How to become a fellatio and cunnilingus master!

Oral sex has become a normal part of intercourse and is essential in foreplay. Here's everything you need to know about giving amazing fellatio and cunnilingus!

The Panty.com blog is an inexhaustible source of ideas and advice on improving your sex life. After seeing How to make a woman orgasm, let's talk about sex using another body part: the mouth.

Oral sex is important for a successful and satisfying time in the bedroom. According to this sex survey of young adults, 55% of men have given oral sex in the past year, and 74% of women.

Oral sex is a great way to get the temperature rising. But many people, especially if they’ve never done it before, wonder how to give oral sex. This is a normal thought, because there’s a lot to think about down there!

We are here to make your journey down under a smooth and satisfying one. This is our comprehensive guide to how to give good head, whether that be fellatio, cunnilingus, or whatever else you’re getting up to...

What is oral sex?

Oral sex is the stimulation of someone’s sexual organs using your mouth, tongue and lips. It is an act of giving and is an intimate sexual act. Oral sex is usually enjoyed during foreplay, but it can also be an event all by itself.

What is fellatio and cunnilingus?

If you want to give pleasure to a partner with a penis, then it’s called fellatio. If you are giving oral sex to someone with a vagina, this is called cunnilingus. Obviously, the techniques are different, but the instruments are the same: mouth, lips, and tongue (and sometimes chin, nose, teeth…).

How to give a good blowjob

When it comes to sex, you must never be in a hurry. This rule is especially important when it comes to oral sex.

Be Gentle: Being delicate is the second key point. Remember that the mouth has teeth. It's important to take it easy so a pleasant moment doesn’t become a painful one. The penis is in fact very sensitive, so even a small scratch with a tooth can ruin the moment.

Blow job techniques: A great oral sex technique is to try to mimic the feeling of real penetration. Slowly pull the penis into your mouth, keeping your mouth fairly tight so their penis feels like it’s entering a small space. Then you can start moving up and down the penis, varying your speed and which parts of the penis you focus on. Meanwhile, stimulate the penis with your tongue and lips, and suck the glans. The glans, together with the frenulum, is an area rich in nerve endings and paying attention to them will drive your partner wild.

Don't forget your hands: When it comes to how to give a good blowjob, use all the tools at your disposal. While your mouth is busy, use your hands to stimulate and caress the testicles and area around the anus.

Ejaculation - what to do when the time comes: When you get to the moment of orgasm, the fateful question is: should they come in my mouth? The answer is very simple: do whatever you want! Many men express desire to ejaculate into their partner’s mouth, but never feel pressured to do so. If you choose to opt out, ask them to warn you before they come, so you have time to redirect them.

Sex is all about the journey, not the end. A perfect oral session doesn’t have to end with ejaculation. It’s more than fine to pleasure and tease your partner with oral sex before moving onto something else.

Oral sex positions - fellatio: There are no rules! You can lie on top of your partner in bed (showing off your body!), kneel in front of them or even lie upside down off the edge of your bed. Basically, whatever makes you comfortable.

How to go down on a girl: Cunnilingus 101

Let’s turn to the female sex organ: the vagina. Cunnilingus is the action of stimulating a vagina with your mouth and it can include penetration with the tongue. Cunnilingus can be a long process, so let’s start at the top.

Start with your hands. Lightly caress the lips and the area around the vagina. This will get your lover excited, and will start gentle stimulation of their clitoris.

Lick the clitoris: When your partner is sufficiently aroused (and begging for more!) and you feel their genitals are lubricated, you can start to use your mouth. Start stroking the vagina with your tongue. Lick around the clitoris before touching it directly, and start with slow movements. Try gently blowing on their clitoris to make the area cool, and then tapping it and circling around it with your tongue. Try to keep a rhythm, and follow your lover’s signals. If you can tell a spot is particularly pleasurable for them, stick around.

Penetrate with the tongue: Using the tip of your tongue, gently stimulate the entrance to the vagina.

And don’t stop there! Always pay attention to their moans, and caress their erogenous zones, like the butt, breasts, neck and lips. This kind of multitasking is what creates intense pleasure and never ending orgasms!

The 69 position: Oral sex for everyone

There are a few oral sex positions that let you and your partner stimulate each other at the same time. And the 69 position is one of them! Of course, it’s not easy to concentrate on giving your partner pleasure while being pleasured yourself. But if you can do it, it’s a great way to heat things up and get each other off. As always, don’t knock it ‘till you’ve tried it!

These oral sex tips are general ones, and it’s important to remember that we are all different and our bodies are all different. The real secret to being an oral sex expert is to get to know your partner’s desires, body, and what really gets them going. Communication is key! Now it’s time to put your lesson to practice. Have fun!